I researched a lot of options and settled on DUOSIDA 3030-PSE-16-5C-ES 220V.
It's for 3.7 kW, 220V, and has a schuko plug, the other part is a female SAE J1772, roughly 230 Euro, $245 or 200 pound sterling.
Will wait for opinions a few days before ordering. It's the holiday season anyway, I doubt anyone will ship it between the holidays.